|Memes like this one show that parents of kids with autism|
feel a bond with other parents of kids with autism, and they
don't always extend that feeling of kinship to adults with
They think if you, as an adult, are saying in a blog that you have autism, you may be faking it just to get attention or because you want to write a book and get rich or something; they think that if you do have autism, if you are able to write a blog you must be very "high functioning" in every way and therefore have nothing in common with their children who have autism; they think that you probably only write about your very specific experiences and that your experiences will be too specific for them to relate to; or you are unable to present an objective viewpoint of autism and they will not be able to learn anything from you.
I feel that many of these may be true for many people. I know for a fact that there is a lot of tension between certain groups of adults with autism and certain groups of parents of children with autism. But I commented on that blog, that I think another reason why parents of kids with autism don't read our blogs is not because they think we have nothing to say, but because parent bloggers of any kids usually want to read about and hear from other parent bloggers. Homeschooling parents tend to read all of the homeschooling blogs they can find. Religious parents probably read all of the blogs they can by other religious parents. If you have a child with Down syndrome, you probably search for blogs by other parents of children with Down syndrome. If you adopted children, you may look for blogs by parents who have adopted or are in the adoption process. I could go on forever. And probably all of these parents would even read each other's blogs; ie a homeschooling mother might enjoy reading a blog about foster parenting. But often parents do not look for blogs by childless adults, with or without autism.
And, if an adult without children shows up reading a lot of parenting blogs, some parents get a little creeped out. There is a sort of assumption by many parents, that other parents are generally trustworthy, while people without children are a little suspicious. I understand that; I feel similarly about people who don't like dogs. I'm like, "Whaaaat? You don't have a dog? Uh... why not?"
Which brings me to this question. I can't really ask all of my non-readers why they don't read this blog, since they will never see the question. So I will ask my readers... why do you read this blog? Is it because you have an interest in ADHD or autism, for yourself or your child? Are you just dropping by because I comment on your blogs and you want to reciprocate? Is it because you like my fascinating posts? Tell me why in the comments! Also, if you have a child with autism or any special need, do you read blogs by adults with the same special need, or do you stick to parenting blogs? Inquiring minds want to know!